Flashbacks and Better Days

This last week was filled to the brim with family togetherness and "festivities" as I like to call them.  Last weekend, our beautiful girl Abby was baptized and welcomed into the Catholic Church!  My mom, sister, her husband, my sister-in-law, and all their children traveled to MD from all over the east coast to witness the glorious occasion and meet E and A for the first time!  It was so wonderful, having the whole family together.  The last time this happened was at our wedding nearly four years ago!  The day before the baptism was spent walking around DC and playing tourist…something I never thought I'd have the strength for again.  The last day my mom was in town we went shopping for the entire day, which is another thing I never thought I would do (at least not without a wheelchair) after my diagnosis.  Praise God for better days!!

This weekend, I bought new shoelaces for my sneakers, and almost cried in the shoe aisle at Target.  The laces currently in my shoes are elastic, and were put there by my Occupational Therapist so I could put on my own shoes.  On really good days, I sometimes forget that a few months ago I couldn't even tie my own shoes (and it wasn't because of my big pregnant belly).  Today, I can not only put on my shoes without assistive equipment…I have the hand strength to tie them, too!

I still have flashbacks…little reminders of what I lost, what I could and couldn't do…and I am humbled.  I am humbled and amazed that six months ago I couldn't dress myself, couldn't walk without a rollator (a cool walker with wheels), and could only climb the stairs in our house if I held onto the hand rail and moved at a snails pace.  My blood pressure was so low that I was often one movement away from blacking out, and I struggled to brush my hair because my arms weren't strong enough.

But God.

Today, those flashbacks are reminders to choose joy, and savor every moment…even the hard ones, because they are a gift.  Every day I can wake up and care for myself and my family is a gift, and I want to spend every moment God has given me to praise and thank HIm for this life.  

Please take my life and use it, God.

Remission and Relapse

One of the things I try to accomplish with this blog is awareness/education.  Since being diagnosed with CIDP I've been presented with a unending list of questions (from my own head, from doctors, from friends and family).  It's funny, usually having a diagnosis brings answers, but this diagnosis is so rare that it seems to have brought more questions and confusion than anything else!  The beauty in this is that we all get to learn together, and maybe teach each other along the way!  I was sent home from the first hospital that I was admitted to because they simply didn't recognize my disease and couldn't figure out what was wrong.  If spreading awareness about CIDP helps even one person avoid that terrible situation, then it's more than worth the effort.

After completing my second "loading dose" (a five day high-dose treatment) of IVIG, many have asked  not only how I'm doing, but 'what's next'.  "So, are you in remission now? You seem like you're better!" has become a familiar conversation.  

The short answer is, firstly, thank you!  I am certainly doing much better than I was during my long hospital stay.  I am able to walk, function independently, and care for my son; God has been so good!  Second, no, I am not in remission.  I am still being actively treated for my CIDP.  IVIG is a slow moving treatment that continues to work for weeks or months after the initial dose, meaning that it's still treating me at this moment, even though there is no IV in my arm.  I make a conscious effort each day to get dressed in real clothes and attempt to fix my hair.  As my dear friend would say, just because I am sick doesn't mean I can't look fabulous!

"Whenever you fast, do not put on a gloomy face as the hypocrites do, for they neglect their appearance so that they will be noticed by men when they are fasting. Truly I say to you, they have their reward in full.  But you, when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face so that your fasting will not be noticed by men, but by your Father who is in secret; and your Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you." - Matthew 6:16-18

Whether remission exists for CIDP patients is dependent on who you ask.  Some will say no, that remission with CIDP is not possible.  Others say that if you have gone 1 year without any treatments you are considered to be in remission. In the spirit of hope, I will go with the second opinion and consider myself in remission when I have not needed any treatments for 12 months.  Right now, we're a long way off from that, so I will continue to fight!

The other R word with this disease is relapse.  As I've written about before, there is a very real possibility that I will relapse after this sweet girl is born.  My doctors are doing everything they can to prevent it, but ultimately it's up to my body and totally out of my control.  A relapse could mean many things; it could be as simple as starting to feel the same symptoms I had before (returning muscle weakness and pain, numbness and tingling, etc.), or as complicated as sudden severe weakness that lands me in the hospital again unable to care for myself or my sweet babies.  In talking with other mamas who were pregnant with CIDP (there's a small army of us out there!), every body is different, and each of their experiences was different.  So we really have no idea what my relapse (if it happens at all) will be like.  The most we can do is prepare for the worst, and pray for the best.  My greatest desire at this point is simply to go home with my new baby, and not need to stay in the hospital alone past her discharge.  That would truly break my heart, but I know God will give me the grace to handle it if that is what He requires of me.

So, to recap: No, I am not in remission, and I may never be.  We are unsure of how long I have before a relapse…could be weeks, months, or (God-willing) years from now.  We are preparing for the worst, but continue to pray for the best!  I hope this helps shed some light on my current situation; please feel free to reach out and ask me any other questions!  Comment below, or drop me a note by contacting me above…I would love to hear from you!

Today is a good day, and I will continue to fight and choose joy!

"You make me brave, You make me brave

You call me out beyond the shore into the waves

You make me brave, You make me brave

No fear can hinder now the love that made a way" - Bethel Music

IVIG - take 2!

Last week was a big week!  I spent five days (as an outpatient) at the Cancer Care Center in Frederick hanging out with some awesome people and getting my IVIG on!  Those chairs bring back memories…they're the same ones that are in the hospital rooms.  This time around, I am strong enough to operate the chair myself!!  Needing to be in treatment for more than 4 hours means arriving early…which means getting your choice of chair (very important, once you learn that only 2 or 3 of the trays actually function)!

See that bottle?  This treatment is only made possible by generous blood donors (IG is a blood product).  It takes approximately 2,000 donors for one bottle of IVIG.  I had anywhere from 2-4 bottles each day during my 5 day treatment.  To those of you that are blood donors, thank you from the bottom of my heart.  You have saved my life. To those who have never given blood, please consider it!  What a beautiful way to show Christ's love to one another.  If I could donate myself, I would (I've always been anemic so they weren't interested in my donation).  :)

My sweet hookup for the week!  The stuff on the left is Benadryl, to prevent allergic reactions.  It made me SO sleepy, so I didn't really get a chance to do any of the cool activities I planned on (reading 3 books was a bit ambitious).

Still smiling! 

If you're really awesome, they let you keep the IV in your arm overnight at home so the nurses don't need to re-stick you in the morning!  That fancy net keeps it all nicely contained.

So the number one question I've been getting since the treatment is…how are you feeling?!?

My answer remains the same as always: today is a good day!  

IVIG works differently in everyone, but for me it is slow to show itself.  I don't feel any different for the first 3-4 days of the 5 day cycles.  The last day is when the improvements generally begin; last time it was with the ability to bend my legs again.  This time, I've noted my muscle pain is reduced, which was one of the outcomes I was praying for!  Because of the latest IVIG treatment, I am now able to do things like put my socks and shoes on with minimal pain and discomfort; a huge victory!!  In the last day or two, I have also noticed that it's getting easier to walk up the stairs - still not "normal", but definitely improved.  Although I know it is not a cure, I am excited to see how the IVIG will continue to work over the coming weeks!  Living with CIDP  is a daily reminder to be content.  There are still things I cannot physically do, but I choose to focus on the things I can do, celebrating even the smallest of victories.  Last night, I danced (badly…I can't dance) while washing the dishes.  A few months ago, I couldn't lift an empty pot out of the sink.  God is amazing!!

We are praying most especially that this treatment will prevent a relapse after our sweet girl is born in less than two months.  Thank you for joining us in prayer!!

Rejoice. Be Patient. Persevere.

"Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer." - Romans 12:12

Yesterday was one of those days.  The days that God speaks loudly in your ear and says "I hear you, child. See how much I love you?".  An answered prayer in a very big way for our family.  He hears us…and oh, how He loves us!!  There were smiles, lots of cheering, and tons of gratitude.  There was also a fantastic trip to the park with my sweet boy, which filled my heart to the brim.  All that happiness and rejoicing.  My strength for today.

Today is one of those days.  The ones that force you to search yourself for strength you're not sure you have.  The days that push you to rely on something bigger than yourself…to admit that you can't do life on your own.

These are the days that bring me to my knees.  The days of rejoicing. The days of patience.

Today I am having a repeat EMG/NCS test to see how the first round of IVIG (prayerfully) improved my nerve health.  The test takes about an hour, and isn't terribly pleasant (it involves electrically stimulating my nerves and putting needles in my muscles).  It is not as bad as a spinal tap, but would much rather be snuggling my baby toddler.

Today, with even more intent, I choose joy.  I am choosing to rejoice in the hope I have been given.  I choose to be patient during the suffering of the tests, and to persevere in prayer that the tests show some improvement.

Today's goals:
-Rejoice
-Be patient
-Persevere
-Wear pink

Choose joy.

The Sparkle Dress

Some days, I really struggle with feeling beautiful in my new CIDP skin.  The muscle atrophy, pain, and continued weakness has left me not recognizing the person I see in the mirror…a weak, tired version of the woman I once knew.

Friday night, Thomas and I had a date night (with our main man Eli of course) at the "Fancy" mall a little farther from home.  We walked around admiring clothes we'll never be able to afford (or want to spend so much money on), had a nice family meal, and discovered that the maternity clothes store has a play place inside it and they give out free apple or orange juice to the moms and kids!  On our way back to the car, we passed a store that had evening gowns in the window, and I knew I had to try one on.  

Sometimes, you just have to do something just because it will make you smile.  Be kind to yourself.

Knowing we weren't planning on buying a dress like this (even though I could totally wear it while doing housework and PT), I took a few pictures to look back on during the tough days.  

The dress fit!  FOr the first time in months, I was wearing an item of clothing that fit my new body.  I felt confident, beautiful, and "like me" again.  I twirled. I laughed.  I danced.

I need to take a moment and make something very clear, though.  Even though the dress was amazing, and I loved feeling so rich and luxurious for those few minutes, I know my beauty and confidence can never come from clothes, or any other material thing.  My identity doesn't come from my diagnosis, or my dress size, it comes from Christ.  Always and forever, my identity is in Christ, and I am His.

He makes beautiful things, even when we don't recognize them.

So I rejoice at the opportunity for grace.  Grace to love myself again, just the way I am today, no matter what the future holds.  I am beautiful, because I am His; and because of that, I will dance.

There have been a lot of tears today. They are tears that I’m sure are exacerbated by pregnancy hormones, but tears just the same. Tears of loss.

I have lost so much of my identity in these last few months, but I am not without hope. I have lost my job, we have lost income, I have lost my independence and sense of adulthood. It is humiliating. It is humbling.

I have accepted the tears much more quickly than accepting help. But if I may have a moment of honesty, I am struggling. And so there are tears.

“You make beautiful things out of the dust. You make beautiful things out of us. You make me new, You are making me new.” -Gungor #CIDP #warrior #givemeJesus #awareness #spoonie #chronicillness

Pain. On of the many symptoms of #CIDP, and one that isn’t talked about. I am one of the fortunate ones who does not spend every moment of every day in pain, but there are still many things I cannot do without pain. I dread simple tasks like getting dressed, or getting in and out of bed. Still, I try to choose joy each day, and remember all the things I am able to do. I am blessed in this suffering; there is beauty that comes from it, goodness that comes from knowing that God sees me and has asked me to be a light in the dark. I pray every day that sharing my story helps just one person. This crazy life is a gift. “Consider it nothing but joy” #choosejoy #CIDP #chronicillness #awareness #spoonie

Making the bed (especially our California king beast) takes a lot out of me now thanks to my new buddy #cidp. Celebrating this #smallvictory by showing off our beautiful new setup! Feeling very #homegoodshappy with our Mr. & Mrs. Pillow! It used to live in my office, but I love the way it looks in our room with our awesome #IKEA pillows! Color makes my heart so happy. 😊 #choosejoy #chronicillness #awareness #invisibleillness